Peppy's Pot Roast Recipe

Nothing is as delicious as a pot roast made in a slow cooker.  It is a bit of agony if you will be home while this cooks as the whole house will smell like a restaurant.  But the results are well worth it.  Any left overs can be reheated, or sliced and put on a sandwich!  Yum!!

To start, you will need one of these:

This is typically what a chuck roast will look like. Look for a piece that is well marbled, but with excess fat removed.

A slow cooker and about 8 hours to make an absolutely delicious roast.

The good news: Chuck Roast is pretty inexpensive to buy.  The bad news: it is very fatty.  The good news: it give the meat excellent flavor.

Ingredients:
1 chuck roast 2-3 pounds.
1 pkg of lipton onion soup mix
1 can of tomato paste
freshly ground pepper
1 tsp thyme
1/2 tsp rosemary
1-2 bay leaf
2 stalks of celery cut lenght wise (for flavoring); 2 stalks of celery cut in 1 inch pieces added in the last 1 1/2 of cooking
1 carrot, cut lenght wise (for flavoring); 2-3 carrots cut in bite sized pieces, added in the last 1 1/2 hr of cooking
3-4 red potatoes cut in bit sized pieces - added in the last 1 1/2 hrs of cooking.
3 cloves garlic cut in 4ths
1 large red or vidalia onion cut into quarters - 1 onion diced to add at the 1 1/2 hour mark
1 cup red wine
1 cup water

Turn the slow cooker on low.  Add liquid ingredients to the pot, mixing in the tomato paste and soup mix until smooth and uniform.  Add spices. Gently place the meat in the cooker and add the vegetables. (You will be removing these later on and replacing them with fresh ones so that they're not mooshy). Place the lid on your cooker and walk away.  Let the cooker do its thing.  Try to avoid lifting the lid unless a bit more liquid is needed.  Cook for about 6 1/2 hours. At the 6 1/2 hr mark, remove the vegetables you put in and replace them with fresh ones.  Cook for an additional 1 1/2 hours. Taste test to see if additional salt is needed.  This is delicious the next day when put on some crusty bread as a sandwich!

Pot Roast Sandwich with Steak Fries

Recipe for Fried Fish and Tarragon Aioli Sauce

We recently discovered a tasty and inexpensive fish called Swai.  At $2.99/lb, you can't go wrong.  Even my finicky eater, who normally abhors fish, enjoys this meal.

Here is how my honey likes it best:

2-3 fillets of Swai
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For Dredging
1 C unbleached flour
salt & pepper to your liking
1/2 tsp paprika
1/2 tsp mustard powder
1 tsp dill
1 tsp tarragon
1/2 tsp majoram
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Egg Wash
2 eggs
2 tablespoons of milk
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Outer crust 

1 pkg Panko breadcrumbs (Japanese style)

Instructions 
1. Rinse fillets and pat dry with paper towel
2. In a bowl, crack eggs and  mix with milk.  Beat until well combined.
3. Combine flour and herbs, stirring well to evenly distribute herbs;
4. Place the breadcrumbs in a Ziplock bag
5. Cut fillets in strips measuring approximately 2 x 3 (more manageable)
6. Dip the fillets in the flour mixture coating both sides evenly.
7. Dip the fillets in the egg mixture
8. Place fillets one at a time in the breadcrumbs bag and shake until evenly coated

9. Fill a heavy skillet with approximately 1 inch Canola oil for frying. Preheat oil.  Test oil for temperature by taking one breadcrumb and letting it fall into the oil.  When the oil is ready the crumb should hit the bottom of the pan and immediately float to the top and sizzle.  (alternatively you can measure the temperature which should be about 350F degrees). On an electric stove this is a medium to medium high setting.

10. Fry fish pieces one or two at a time not to crowd the pan for about 4 minutes per side until golden brown.  Drain on paper towel.

Tartar Sauce:

This tastes best if made in advance and placed in the fridge to allow flavors to marinade.

Cornichons are tiny little pickles as pictured above.

1/2 C Mayonaise
2 Cloves Garlic minced
3 Cornichons diced in very small pieces
1 T capers
1 tsp dill
1 tsp tarragon
pepper
juice of one lemon

Serve dish with lemon wedges.  My kids love potato salad with this!

Spring Essentials - According to a real woman with curves (RWWC)

There is nothing more important than having the right bra for the right occasion.  For women who are have bigger breasts, it is imperative that she chooses the right bra to give both support, lift and shape but also are comfortable to wear and in a fabric that feels good.

 Above: Le Mystere 9955 Dream Tisha
During the spring and summer, a T-shirt bra is a must.  Choose one in white, beige and black.  It might sound obvious, but it is worth restating - save your darker bras for dark colored tops.  It is tacky to see your bra outline under a pretty blouse or t-shirt.  (Yes! Really!!!)

Above: Wacoal Basic Beauty 855192

Above: Fantasy 4510 Smoothing Molded Cup

In addition, before you purchase your next bra, make sure you are measured.  One of the reasons that we end up with a ton of bras is because we are looking for the perfect fit and feel.  Before you buy, test drive.

Try on a few models you like and see which one fits the best.  It might sound embarrassing, but ask the sales associate to help you decide which fits the best.  Look at yourself in the mirror and ensure that your cups do not runneth over, the straps are set an an angle to prevent them from falling off your shoulders and that your flesh does not spill over the band.   Some bras are cut more generously than others so make sure YOU TRY IT ON!!!  

On the day that you go bra shopping, wear a T-shirt or top that you expect to wear the bra under.  Make sure you try on the bra with the garment. If you are someone who easily gets nipplus errectus, ensure that you choose a bra that is lightly padded so that the nipple outline is not visible through your clothing.  (Unless this is a look you are going for, (again T-A-C-K-Y) it is not a look you would want during a business meeting or job interview.)

Above: Elomi 3911 Smoothing Underwire

When shopping for a good bra, expect to spend a little more.  It is the curse of us larger breasted women - we are not able to fit into the cutesy-tootsie models at Vicky's or Wallyworld that are generally available at a lower price. Some of the best places to purchase a bra are at Maidenform, Nordstrom and Macy's.

All of these places have a good assortment of bras for RWWC's and helpful staff to ensure you leave with something you will wear. Doesn't it make sense to invest in a bra that you will wear instead of 3 that poke, prod, spill over or have straps that fall off your shoulders?  Make sure you ask your sales assistant how to properly care for your bra so that it will last the longest.

When you get home, cut the tag out of your bra and put it in your wallet.  Why?  So that the next time you go to purchase a bra, you will have the model number, brand and size handy.  Please do us all a favor and stop worrying about the size you are purchasing.  Pick a bra that is built for comfort and class.

Above: Bali Passion for Comfort

Once you have tried on a bra, you may be able to purchase it at a discount on line.  Some places to check out are www.onehanesplace.com , www.biggerbras.com, barenecessities , www.herroom.com.

Did you find other places to shop for bras? Please leave a comment, we'd love to know!

Known Strangers....

So here is what hit me today in learning how to deal with Mr. Hot Dog Water:

My reality and my desire were out of sync. What I wanted is for us to have an amicable divorce. I have tried everything in my power to make it so. What I have failed to recognize, however, is that it takes two people committed to the same ideal.

If indeed we had been committed to the same ideal, wouldn't we still be married?

I recognized today that I put way to much stock into being nice. As I was driving in the car, I was thinking about the term that insurance companies use to disqualify you from being part of your ex-spouse's health insurance: known strangers.

While I would have preferred to have had a working relationship with my ex, this is clearly not possible. Therefore he must become a known stranger. Known strangers in my book have the right to courteous and professional communications, but have no right to the inside mechanics of my life, be it professional or personal. They cease to have the right to reside in my inner circle of friends and family.

This fundamental shift from someone that I used to trust to take a bullet for me to being a known stranger is one that is extremely difficult. To change the expectations of what this person is capable of doing for or with me. This leads me to the following conclusion: I don't have to be friends with him nor his girlfriend. I don't have to agree with his parenting style, the way he dresses or anything else. It would be preferable to have a working relationship with him in which things are communicated clearly, and there are some fundamental issues on which we see eye to eye. Obviously if this were the case, I would like have stayed married.

Ultimately, the relationship between Mr. Hot Dog Water and I becomes a business relationship instead of a personal one. Failure for him to abide by the divorce decree or any other legally binding documents will have breach of contract ramifications. Failure for him to abide by local, state and federal laws with respect to payment of alimony, child support or in the manner in which he treats the children will have their repercussions as well.

For so long I have felt responsible for keeping this relationship friendly without his contribution to the same goal. My dependence on him financially has undermined my ability to make good choices. My false belief that I could not live without his approval (and thus financial and/or emotional support) have gone on long enough. In order for my life to truly move forward, to absolve myself from the bitterness, anger, hatred, resentment, I have to change my view of what I would have liked this situation to have looked like.

While for me personally friendly, peaceful, warm and honest relationships are a priority, I cannot hold him responsible for the same things. The only thing I can do is control how I allow him to treat me. I don't have to put up with him AT ALL.

Therefore, I have decided that Mr. Hot Dog Water is released on his own recognisance, to do as he wishes (which he was to begin with), as a known stranger to me. I will still hold him responsible to take good care of our children, but I will no longer expect him to treat me fairly, politel, nicely or otherwise, as it seems that this falls outside the realm of possibility. This would be expecting him to be a person he is not, nor will ever be. I will have to adjust and change my reaction to him.

After all, my experience in the business world has adequately prepared me to set clear boundaries with respect to what I will and will not allow. This will be no different.

Fare thee well, unknown stranger, I'm moving on.

Susy's Zucchini Bread

Nothing profound to offer today as a major migraine has entered the upper peninsula....the good smells of home baking and cooking are always good for something, and lift the spirits.  Here's my contribution to the effort:

Susy's Zucchini Bread

3 large eggs
1 C (240 ml) canola oil
2 C (1 1/2 medium zucchini) grated zucchini
3 tsp (15 ml) vanilla extract
1/2 C (120 ml) honey
1/2 C (120 ml) Agava Nectar

1/2 tsp (2.5 mg)ground cloves
3 tsp (15 mg)cinnamon
3 C (360 mg) unbleached flour
1 tsp (5 mg)baking soda
1/2 tsp (2.5 mg)baking powder

1/2 C (75 mg) - finely chopped pecans

Preheat oven to 350F (175 C) Beat wet ingredients in a bowl until light yellow and foamy. (Adding zucchini last). Mix dry ingredients in separate bowl and gradually add to the first bowl and blend well. Coat bread pan with nonstick spray. Pour in batter and level out with spoon. Bake at 350 (175C) for about 1 hour until done.

Cleaning your psychic closet

One of my goals for the rest of the year is to become more organized. For someone with the ADHD personality, organization is an arduous task to begin with.  For someone who is trying to move forward with his or her life, to leave the past in the past so they can live in the present it can be an emotional undertaking.

I was faced with tossing items that belonged to someone that was a part of my life some time ago. I had started on this before but couldn't bring myself to separate for the things that he had left behind. While sorting through the items today, I realized that instead of being deeply distraught, like I was the first time I tried to clean the items from my home, I felt relieved.

I am a firm believer in making sure that you are in the right time and right psychic space to accomplish these sorts of tasks. It takes a balanced view to keep things that are special to you, to toss things that no longer have meaning. When you are an emotional train wreck, it is easy to rid your home of any trace of someone's presence, whether they left under their own powers or passed away. The temptation, for example, to get rid of every shred of evidence while in a fit of rage, leaving a smoldering trail of photographs, might come back to haunt you in the future.

What I am noticing as I am going through this, as I am evaluating other items of clutter, is that one of the reasons I hang on is the feeling that I am somehow responsible for items of little monetary value left behind. These can be replaced fairly easily.  As I am clearing out the rubble, ridding my life of all the weight, I am realizing how much psychic space is opening up in front of me.

Through my commitment to visualize what I would like to attract into my life, I am able to conceive how the things I am clearing are creating a space in my life that can be fulfilling and content with the things that I want.  That it no longer holds power over me - that fear has left me.  I feel myself becoming oddly excited at the prospect of undertaking new endeavors, new avenues that were muddled by the endless clutter and debris of a former life I no longer need to live.

The only way that I find I can go on with life is to truly let go, to remove things that no longer have value and things that theoretically should not hold any power over me. To throw some of the holding-on-caution to the wind.  To create a sacred space where new items can be manifested and clear thinking becomes the status quo.

Keeping your feet moving towards the object of your fear

Over the last couple of months I have faced down some formidable dragons and in the process really discovered a lot about who I am and what I am about. It seems  to me that a lot of depression and anxiety is caused when your inner compass is out of tune with you outer world.

By that I mean that your core beliefs are being sabotaged because the fear of what will happen if you truly follow your heart, you truly do what you believe wants to shut you down before you even arrive at the challenge.  I intercepted a large tax return that was applied toward an arrearage, advocated for excellence in health care and stood up for what I believed - albeit it on shaking baby giraffe-like legs. It made me realize how powerful I really am (without sounding boastful it is the kind of powerful that allows me to be a fierce and able advocate for myself and my children when needed).  It made me realize that my observations, my thoughts and my actions legitimate.  And power is about being able to form relationships that are collaborative as well as ones where all parties are heard.

So often what happens, the moment we start feeling fear, is we stop. We take a detour, we pretend that the goal we had intended doesn't exist. I started challenging myself to stop making excuses and to keep my feet moving towards my goal despite the intense fear I felt in doing so.

I began visualizing what it would feel like to be at peace.  I started to retreat to that inner calm to discover what in my inner being I really wanted to do or how I wanted to react or respond to a situation instead of letting others manipulate me into decisions that I wasn't ready to make.

What I discovered about myself is this: I enjoy the quiet introspective times spent by myself to ponder the many aspects of life. By some this solitude is viewed as a sign of depression, but for me it is a serenity paralleled by no other means. To travel inside to the core, where you connect with the Source.

Later, I reemerged with a new resolve and a new attitude about how I am going to tackle a particular project or conflict with renewed energy and determination.  It helps me to visualize what things look, feel, taste, like in order for me to feel a sense of calm.

Generally speaking, I have a very poor perception of self, I don't realize when I have made some major gains in the self-development arena in my life.  But this time I can feel it as the good kind of giddy-anxiety propels me into new areas and is allowing me to take on new endeavors with a new attitude.